OK, So for the past couple weeks it's just been me and miss madam, while RD stays at my mums and as I've had more time to focus just on her I've observed a few things. Now I've always known she's quite gifted and is very advanced academically, but I've also realised she has zero common sense, which has always frustrated me as I just couldn't understand how such an intelligent child could literally be so clueless (sorry not clueless but I can't think of a nicer word to explain it) Now I've spoken to some other mums who have children who are the same as Cali and they gave me lots of things to look up. So after a bit of research I' now wondering if Cali has some kinda sensory disorder.
So here's just a few of the things I've observed that have led me to believe this:
She's very sensitive to certain sounds
Like she'll happily watch her movies up loud but any other kinda noise at that same volume she just can't take.
She's very sensitive to the feel of things
For ages I've been struggling to get her to wear tights, even to school in the cold she'd insist on socks, yet outside of school, happily wear leggings. Then I found out she can't deal with the feeling of the foot part of the tights on her toes. I then cut of the feet off all her tights and she now happily wears them
She's not affectionate
If you're lucky enough to get a hug she will only hug with one side of her body, never a full hug with her whole body and forget about kisses and I love you's.
She shows no emotion
She doesn't cry, maybe once in a blue moon will this child cry. She's never really happy or sad, mostly just indifferent. She'd not affected (or doesn't react to) whats going on around her immediately. Although she will have an opinion on worldly issues.
She struggles to smell things
Particularly her own scent when she is sweating. Which is weird because she'd the whole reason why she went doctors and started wearing deodrant from when she was in reception, because she noticed that she was sweating and would be really upset about the smell. But now she doesn't care and can't seem to tell.
She used to be the most social outgoing child ever, but now she's soooo stoosh. She mostly doesn't wanna talk to people and when she does she has no real communication skills and will happily turn and ignore anyone who acknowledges her. She doesn't like to carry conversations on with people. When she passes friends outside of school and they're all excited to see her she'll either turn the other way and pretend she hasn't seen them (even though they've called to her and said hello) or she'll happily walk past (unless I notice the friend and tell her to say hi then she'll maybe grunt a hello at them)
She also doesn't seem to get how she'd being offensive to people and doesn't care or understand your thoughts or feelings.
She still can't tell the time.... although she can...
This is a bizzare one because I taught her how to tell the time years ago I think when she just started school (shes year 4 now) then her school taught her the time in year 1 I think then I followed up with telling the time again. So she knows how to tell it, she just doesn't care to tell the time. Even the other day RD was trying to teach her how to tell the time and she didnt want to listen to him because she feels she's so intelligent and above everyone someone like RD could not possibly teach her something. Which is another problem. I keep explaining to her look mummy was very clever at your age but just because you're super clever it doesn't mean everyone else is thick and you can't learn from them.
Always has to win
Even if there's no race and no one in competition with her and when there is she will literally fight you and mash up herself to be first. When she doesn't win it affects her for weeks, like even if she gets 1 less than a perfect score on a spelling test that ruins her whole life.
Fixated on one thing only
Also I've realised when I explain things to her she just doesn't take it in because she's so fixated on one thing that she can't take anything else into her brain. But then that could literally just be a child thing lol
Lying and Stealing
Now I know kids lie, but this child lies about everything like shes a teenager. I can watch her do something and she will swear blind she didn't and want to argue about it. I also keep finding things missing and realised she'd been taking things then hides them in her room (or looses them) and she doesn't necessarily want or need them she just takes them. When I've asked her why she says 'I just can't help myself' which is a bit concerning....
So now I'm here wondering what's going on. I don't think it's a phase as it's been going on for a while now and has been getting worse as she gets older. I'm really trying to understand her and whats going on but I'm wondering if there's something that a professional needs to look into or if its just a kid thing,or if its a personality thing or a genetic thing as her dad is exactly this same way. Actually I believe her dads bi polar, but we won't get into that right now lol