Saturday, 30 January 2016

Mmmmm cocktails.. Yummy :)

As you already know I love love love cocktails but I love cocktails served in a jar even more. For some reason they just taste sooo much better. When we took Cali to Pizza Hut for her birthday we coincidently got there just in time for happy hour, so I got 2 Woo Woos, which were soo yummy. My mum was supposed to have one but she’s not much of a drinker and doesn’t appreciate cocktails like I do so I was like ‘I’ll be having that one too’ Pizza Hut has really changed since the last time we went there. It really reminds me of TGI Fridays now (OMG their cocktails are amazing) and I love the addition of cocktails to the menu.
Obviously you don’t have to go out and spend a load on cocktails, so if you fancy having a go at making your own Woo Woo at home, it’s actually a very simple one to make. You only need 3 things:
Vodka
Peach Schnapps
Cranberry Juice

Throw all of that in a cocktail shaker (You can probably find one in the £1 shop) give it a shake, add ice and lime and you’re good to go. Also if you wanna give it that retro feel, serve it in a jar with some funky straws. This drink is perfect when you’re getting ready for one of those rare once in a blue moon girls night out

Friday, 29 January 2016

Pop Vits


So although my 2 are happy to take their vitamins or have vitamin drops, I found that I was the one who kept forgetting to give them it. So after seeing these randomly in Morissons, I thought they looked like a fun way of giving the kids their vitamins. They’re called Pop Vits and they are basically flavoured multivitamin lollipops. What also appealed to me was the fact that they’re sugar free. So they look like sweets but are not... if that makes any sense... The kids love them as they think it’s great to eat ‘sweets’ everyday and because of this they always remind me that they need their vitamins. They only started having them this week but it’s going well, I guess anytime you throw something that looks like sweets in the mix it will always go well. So I may stock up while they’re on offer.

Thursday, 28 January 2016

#ootd

Denim high waisted shorts - Primark
Grey T-shirt - Primark
100 denier tights (super warm & comfy 3 pack) - Primark


Wednesday, 27 January 2016

What is a Harajuku girl?

So following on from my previous post about Harajuku girls here's a video I found on YouTube that helps explain their style a bit more :)

Tuesday, 26 January 2016

Kawaii :)

One of the main reasons I want to visit Japan is to go to Harajuku Village and just people watch. Harajuku actually refers to the area around Tokyo’s Harajuku station. It is the centre of Japans most extreme teenage cultures and fashion styles. I love how different groups have their own individual styles and dress really OTT and go crazy with accessories.


 Each group seems to stay true to their style. They make dressing seem like so much fun. If you follow me on Pinterest you will know how obsessed I am with how they dress and get a lot of inspiration from looking at photos of Japanese street style and I love love love stalking Tokyo Fashions website and Instagram page . There are many sub groups but these are definitely some of my favs:

Punks 

Inspired by the punk movement in London in the 70's . This style is very rebellious with OTT clothes, edgy accessories , dark make up and multiple piercings.
Lolita

If you've ever seen that very creepy movie Lolita then this will need no explanation to you. This style focuses on child like aspects and uses light or pastel colours, pretty dresses and child like fantasy themes.


Decora

This style is all about bright colours and flamboyance. I love how you're encouraged to wear lots of layers of crazy colours and over accessorise, which I already love to do.




#ootd



Faux leather mini skirt - H&M
Slouchy vest top - Primark
Necklace set - Primark 
Large hoop ear rings - Primark 

Friday, 22 January 2016

Awww poor him... No, serves him right... No, poor him



After watching Kid Criminals the other night, I felt very conflicted. If you din't manage to watch it, it was a documentary on juveniles serving time behind bars. It seems to be a weekly show, but this week it focused on the boys on the boys in the sex offenders block. They spoke to a few teenage boys under the age of 18 who were in there for some kind of sex crime. 
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At first I thought OMG they're disgusting creatures, how can they be that young and doing those kind of things to other children, who were sometimes even their siblings? But then the more I watched it the more I kinda understood their story. Now most of these boys had been abused themselves by parents or family members. One of the boys said if he was naughty his dad would punish him by locking him inside the washing and would sometimes switch it on while he was still in there. Another boy grew up with his mum who was on crack and doing prostitution so he saw a lot from a young age.
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Two boys in particular (the 1st guy with the glasses who speaks on the trailer and the black boy) seem so troubled. Almost like they knew what they did was really wrong and they were struggling to live with themselves or even forgive themselves. The black boy also seemed sooo lost like he literally fighting demons in his head. I got the feeling that what he did to his sister is always gonna be on his conscience and I don't think he can live with it. I feel like he could even commit suicide just out of pure guilt and frustration with himself. I actually felt sorry for him, then thought hold on, why am I feeling sorry for him? He's committed a sex crime and if he had troubled one of my kids I'd want him to be severely punished and would never forgive him. But at the same time he's so fucked in his head, so is it his fault, or is it his parents?
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There was one 18 year old in there (The one who talks through the little opening of the door) who simply came across as one big perv or even a paedophile. He kept being let out then re-offending and coming back in. The staff were saying that he loves young boys so much that he will even groom the younger or new boys in that block. Even though he had a slightly troubled past I didn't feel any empathy towards him, maybe because he was a lot older than the others and really should know better. He's even been threatened with being put on the sex offenders list, but that still doesn't seem to stop him from re-offending. I would assume that if he gets let out he will probably go and trouble another young boy and get thrown straight back inside. But because he will soon be 19 he would actually have to go into the main prison with the big men, so maybe that would give him the fright he needs to stop being a perv.
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The two young boys I mentioned earlier have been released since the filming of the show and I really hope they both find themselves some positive role models to help them turn their lives around and stay on the right track so they don't ever make the same mistake again.
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So as you can see, by the end of the documentary I found myself having a completely different opinion to what I had when I first started watching it. But, although they all had a pretty convincing sob story, should we really be feeling sorry for these kinda Kid Criminals.

#ootd


Stripy bodycon dress - H&M
Peace T-Shirt - Tobago airport gift shop
Long wolley socks - Primark


Thursday, 21 January 2016

Birthday Girl!

Soooo my little diva is 7 today. Where has the time gone? She’s making me feel so old. I’m not gonna write some long mushy post about how I remember the day she was born blah blah blah, whatever, just hurry up and reach 18 so mummy can get her life back, whoop whoop!! Lol Happy Birthday big mouth! As we always tell eachother I love you to heaven and back down to the underground trains.

Wednesday, 20 January 2016

Mummy you’re stupid!

So from the title I’m sure you can guess who this post is about, yep, RD. OMG he was being such a pain in the ass yesterday. Every morning he wakes up first and refuses to go in the bathroom and get ready first. Yesterday he was adamant he was not going anywhere near the bathroom and decided to annoy me by shouting ‘No I wont!’ to everything I asked him to do. I even tried gently guiding *cough cough dragging* him into the bathroom, but he just thought it was more fun to escape and run off and hide, like I had the time or patience for that.
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In the meantime Cali had got up and after hearing me screaming at RD she was on her best behaviour and offered to go in the bathroom first. So while Cali was in the bathroom RD then decided he’d changed his mind and wanted to have his wash first and started kicking off. I was thinking, it’s way too early and I can’t be dealing with explaining things to him for the billionth time;
“GO BACK TO YOUR ROOM, NOW!!!!!!!!”
 I swear the flat shook, I literally roared at him like a big angry king of the jungle. Now this would be enough to calm Cali down, but no, not RD. So what did he decide to say?
“You stupid, You stupid mummy,”
Instantly I was like:
“WHAT-DID-YOU-JUST-SAY?”
So he happily repeated himself;
“You stupid, you so stupid mummy!”
I was thinking, OK... just ignore him, he’s trying to piss you off and fuck up your equilibrium, just be calm, you just did Pilates this morning, breathe... I’ve found with RD when he says stupidness like that it’s just an attention thing so if I don’t give him any he tends to stop.
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So anyways, he got himself ready and I’m thinking everything’s cool now. Nope it’s not cool, as he then refused to eat his breakfast then had the nerve to kick off because he’s hungry, umm, hello eat your breakfast then. It didn’t stop there, as he then refused to brush his hair and put his coat and shoes on. I was like; 
"OK bye, I’m leaving" 
Then what does he say;
“Urgh mummy you can’t leave me you stupid,”
That was enough for me I was thinking fuck ignoring this again, he’s being really rude. So, I bent down to his level, narrowed my eyes and through gritted teeth said;
“Look, if you ever try calling mummy stupid again, I will cancel your birthday and you will be little forever”

Now for a boy who wants to grow big and strong and hates being referred to as a little boy (apparently he’s just a boy not a little boy) this was enough to stop him. Needless to say he apologised and gave me no more problems after that ;)

Monday, 18 January 2016

Is she dumbing herself down to be popular?

OK so Cali has always been very advanced/brainy. Yes she takes after her mummy *insert smug face here* but I noticed from nursery that she would pretend to not know certain things so that she wouldn't stand out. Even her nursery teachers noticed and would encourage her to put her hand up. Fast forward a few years and I've noticed recently that she seems to be doing it again. She acts like she doesn't know certain things (that she actually knows) and going along with fuckeries that certain friends say, when she blatantly knows it’s bollocks, but won’t correct them. Also in reception she was an over achiever and now she doesn't seem to be scoring as highly. Although I'm obviously still doing homework and further learning so that she can stay top of the class, she seems to be happy to fly under the radar. Now she'd nearly 7 so I know that friends and fitting in are very important at that age (although I've always taught my kids not to be followers and how it's good to be different and stand out) So now I'm wondering if she thinks being clever and knowing a lot will make her lose friends.. 

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I was very advanced at her age too, mainly because I have a super brainy sister who is 9 years older than me who I used to always be up underneath. She would always sit and read with me and teach me stuff. I also didn't really used to try at school because I knew I would pass tests with good grades simply from my general knowledge, I actually did this all the way up to uni... But, I never tried to dumb myself down for my friends, if anything I was the total opposite. My hand was always up, I always had something to say and I was happy to tell my friends stuff that I knew and they didn't treat me any different we were all still cool. I've tried explaining this to Cali but I don’t think she’s quite grasped it. I've even bluntly told her if she keeps pretending to not know things people will think she’s thick and needs special help, when she clearly doesn't. I've also tried telling her you don't go down to someone's level, you help bring them up to yours. I honestly don’t know what to tell her to make her stop doing this...

Thursday, 14 January 2016

Chic to sleep

I've always found that wearing cute under wear makes me feel really sexy, especially if I'm having a fat and ugly day, even if its a size 18 and no one else will be seeing it apart from myself and my nosey kids. For some strange reason small things like that can make you feel a bit better about yourself. Well that and glitter, a bit of sparkle can make a big difference. Anyways, it’s the same with sleepwear. Just because I'm a big girl it doesn't mean that I need to look like an old frump and sleep in a tent with my big belly warmer ‘time of the month’ knickers. But annoyingly not a lot of places actually cater to plus sized or even normal sized woman and the ones that do, the choices are quite limited which doesn’t help me at all. But I found a site called Adore me that not only does cute lingerie and sleepwear, but does them in decent sizes, whoop whoop! So I've put together some fab looks for bedtime, yes I said looks, I mean we style ourselves during the day, so why not do the same at night time too?
Now as someone who doesn't like to show their flabby c-section belly (even at bedtime) there’s some covered up options, as well as chic pieces.

I had to add some fun flirty pieces that really show off your boobs... Ummm.. I mean your curves. Perfect for if you’re having ‘company’ over *wink wink* lol




Monday, 11 January 2016

Mummy I don’t want to talk about it.




So my mum collected the kids last week and explained that Cali was really upset over something that happened at school that day.  All she knew was that someone had hurt Calis feelings. So when I asked Cali she said she didn’t want to talk about it and burst into floods of tears. I was like ‘Did someone hurt you?’ she said no, then started crying and talking at the same time and I couldn’t understand a word she said apart from ‘Don’t tell daddy because I don’t wanna talk to him about it either,’
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So while Cali and RD were hanging out with their dad I sat and pondered all the worse case scenarios. I then wondered if she was just tired and being extra sensitive over everything. So when they got back home their dad was concerned because Cali said she didn’t feel well and was upset about something that happened at school but didn’t wanna talk t him about it. So due to my nosey Bajan blood I just had to find out what had happened and why she was so upset. Once again she said she didn’t wanna talk about it.
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Then I told her a few stories about stuff that happened to me when I was little regarding friends and how they act. One story in particular seemed to inspire her to open up. Then when she told me the full story I was thinking fuck sake, you got me all hyper over nothing! Basically she was playing with her friends at school and couldn’t be the leader (as another little girl was the leader for that particular game) She didn’t like it at all and got very upset over it. On top of that she was tired and being overly dramatic. So not even anything to worry about. Cali always wants to be first or the leader even at home she will try fight RD to be first when he’s not racing her or in no kinda competition. I’ve explained to her many times about trying to be first all the time as she’s super clumsy and is so fixated on being first that she doesn’t notice any obstructions in her way and always trips over on her face.
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I’m hoping this is a phase that she will eventually grow out because I feel like everyday I explain to her that everything is not a competition but it just seems to go in one ear and out the other.

Thursday, 7 January 2016

Top 5 perfumes under £20

So as you know, I love a good bargain and although I absolutely love perfumes and smelling good I refuse to spend stupid money on them. Luckily my favourites are all quite cheap. So if you’re on a tight budget after going nuts on pressies for the munchkins at Christmas and wanted to treat yourself to a lovely perfume that won’t break the bank, here are my top 5 and keeping within budget they are all less than £20 J

Britney Spears Fantasy Twist £16 50mls Boots
Because I love both of these fragrences I find it easier to get both of them then I don’t have to choose between them. The pink is very swet and perfect for the day time and the blue is a bit heavier and great for night.


CK Shock Her £17.38 100ml Amazon
This one is more sweet than fruity and a lot stronger than the Britney one but still smells good. I actually got a bottle of it for Christmas.

Avon Luck £9 50ml Avon
I was actually sent this last year to include in my gift guide and saw it and thought ‘meh’ but I shouldn’t have prejudged it it’s actually really nice, like a lighter version of CK Shock.


Angel £19.99 25ml Savers
This Thierry Muglar perfume is the only non cheap one on my list, but it’s gorgeous and very strong so you can use it sparingly so it will last a good while. It’s also refillable so that’s a plus.



Britney Spears Island Fantasy £15.23 Fragrance X
Yes I do love my Britney Spears perfumes... This summer fragrance is very light and fruity and perfect if you want something more subtle.

Wednesday, 6 January 2016

In desperate need of some real sleep


So even before the confusion of the Christmas holidays began, for some reason I’ve not been able to get to bed before 1am. This results in me being like super grumpy in the mornings. The lack of sleep is just making me so impatient and snappy, everything is a big issue to me. The kids seem to be getting on my nerves more than usual and I find myself pulling them up on tiny random things that I wouldn’t normally have a problem with.
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Most days all I want is to be left alone. Even the thought of having a conversation with someone is tiring and really pisses me off. The worst thing about this is, it’s all self inflicted. If I was to get proper nights sleep I wouldn’t feel this way. But recently it’s become difficult to get to bed at a decent time because time just flies after I’ve put the kids to bed and before I know it it’s bloody after 1am again and I’m still up. This whole lack of sleep thing is like changing my personality, I’m mad at the world most days.
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I can’t remember the last time I had 8 hours uninterrupted sleep. I mostly get 2-4 hours a night then just run on adrenaline which is shit. Also the very rare occasions I do get to bed at a decent time something goes wrong, so either my stomach acts up or something’s going on with the kids which results in me having a restless night and waking up feeling like I’ve not slept at all.
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I’m now on a mission to organise myself and be strict so I’m in bed by 11. I can’t take feeling drained and being so knackered I can’t function properly everyday. Something needs to change; I can’t continue to live my life this way.

Tuesday, 5 January 2016

New hair

Savings goals

So last year I saw a new years savings challenge floating around Instagram. But by the time I’d finished procrastinating, the moment had past. But I promised myself that I would definitely do it this year. So here’s how it works:
Every week you save that week number in £s. So week 1 you would save £1 week 5 £5 and so on till week 52. So by the time you reach the end of the year you would have over £1000 saved which isn’t bad. I plan on putting mine towards a nice holiday for next year but you could even use it towards Christmas or treating yourself to something in the sales.
It’s actually a really clever way of saving and it’s not huge amounts which means it is doable. I guess depending on your financial situation you could even double the amount you save per week and have even more to spend at the end.  I do need to set some kinda reminder on my phone otherwise I am very likely to forget to put the money away each week.This is once challenge I’m really looking forward to completing. Let the saving begin!